When a Grandchild Dies: What to Do, What to Say, How to Cope   

Resources Section

Below is the resource list for grieving grandparents that was included in When a Grandchild Dies. Because WGD was published in 1999, many websites, addresses, etc., have changed. If you know of an address that has changed or have other resources to recommend, please send me an e-mail at nfeldman@gal-in-sky.com, and I will post the correction. 

BIBLIOGRAPHY

Breathnach, Sara Ban. Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Com-fort and Joy. New York, NY: Warner Books, 1995.
Cameron, Julia. The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity. Los Angeles, Jeremy P. Targer/Perigee, 1992.
Campbell, Don. The Mozart Effect: Tapping the Power of Music to Heal the Body, Strengthen the Mind, and Unlock the Creative Spirit. New York, NY: Avon Books, 1997.
Dougy Center, The. Understanding Children’s Grief: The Dougy Center Training Manual. Portland, OR, 1988.
Eadie, Betty J., with Curtis Taylor. Embraced by the Light. Placerville, CA: Gold Leaf Press, 1992.
Golden, Thomas. Swallowed By a Snake: The Gift of the Mascu-line Side to Healing. Kensington, MD: Golden Healing Pub-lishing, LLC, 1996.

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
When interviewing grandparents, I asked each of them if a particular book had helped. Following is a list of those books, along with a few of my own recommendations. I’ve included several excellent booklets that deal with grandparents’ grief. Remember as you read through this list that some books may not work with your personal religious or philosophical beliefs. As always, take what you want and leave the rest.

Bennett, Nina. Forgotten Tears.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Big George. Big George - The Autobiography of an Angel. Carson, CA: Hay House, 1995.
Dobson, James. When God Doesn’t Make Sense. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House, 1993.
Fahy, Mary. The Tree that Survived the Winter. New York, NY: Paulist Press, 1989.
Finkbeiner, Ann K. After the Death of a Grandchild - Living With Loss Through The Years. New York, NY: The Free Press, a division of Simon & Schuster, Inc., 1996.
Gerner, Margaret. For Bereaved Grandparents. Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation, 1990.
Leininger, Lori, and Sherokee Ilse. Grieving Grandparents. Wayzata, MN: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Center, 1985.
Lucado, Max. When God Whispers Your Name. Dallas, TX: Word Publishing, 1994.
Horchler, Joani Nelson, and Robin Rice Morris. SIDS Survival Guide. Hyattsville, MD: SIDS Educational Services, 1994.
Kushner, Harold S. When Bad Things Happen to Good People. New York, NY: Shocken Books, 1981.
Lavang, Elizabeth, and Karol Dahlof. Compassionate Caring. Wayzata, MN: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Center, Inc., 1999.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Reed, Mary Lou. Grandparents Cry Twice. Amityville, NY: Baywood Publishing, 2000.
Schiff, Harriet Sarnoff. The Bereaved Parent. New York, NY: Crown Publishing Group, 1977.
Schwiebert, Pat, RN. A Grandparent’s Sorrow. Portland, OR: Perinatal Loss, 1996.
Van Praagh, James. Talking to Heaven: A Medium’s Message of Life After Death. New York, NY: Dutton, 1997.
Weiss, Brian L. Many Lives, Many Masters. New York, Simon & Schuster, 1988.
Yoga Journal’s Yoga Practice for Relaxation (video). Gaiam, 1992

For additional excellent books on bereavement, contact:
Centering Corporation
1531 N. Saddle Creek Road
Omaha, NE 68104
402/553-1200

INTERNET RESOURCES
Many of these organizations also publish a suggested reading list that may be useful. All of these sites were operating at publishing time, but be aware that Web ad-dresses change often. If an address is not working, you might search for the organization through your browser.

Bereaved Families of Ontario
http://www.inforamp.net/~bfo/
e-mail: BFO@inforamp.net

Bereavement Services
http://www.gundluth.org/bereave
e-mail: cherubs@gloryroad.net

Children and Grief
http://www.cmhc.com/factsfam/grief
http://www.grannyg.bc.ca/ckidbook/grief.html
http://www.bcm.tmc.edeu/civitas/families/
Compassionate Friends
http://www.compassionatefriends.org
email: TCF-national@prodigy.com

Counseling for Loss & Life Changes http://www.counselingforloss.com/
Good Grief (The Shiva Foundation)
http://goodgrief.org/
Grandparents’ Grief
http://home.att.net/~laurlev/
Grief, Loss, and Recovery
http://www.erichad.com/grief/

GriefNet
http://rivendell.org/index.html

Hampden-Sydney Counseling Center
http://www.hsc.edu/admin/counsel/coping.html

Healing Hearts
http://www.healinghearts.net
Houston’s Aid in Neonatal Death (H.A.N.D.)
http://www.hern.org/~hand/

Hygeia
http://www.hygeia.org
Infanlos
http://www.amets.net/infanlos/infanlos.htm

Invincible Summer
http://www.drizzle.com/~hall/invsum/

Journey of Hearts
http://www.kirstimd.com/index.htm

Kortas, Sharon (poetry & info on Battens Disease)
http://www.queenbeepublishing.com/sharon.html

M.E.N.D. (Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death) http://www.mend.org

Miscarriage, Infant Death, and Stillbirth (M.I.D.S.)
e-mail: MIDS@nac.net

Mothers in Sympathy and Support (M.I.S.S.)
http://www.misschildren.org/

Mourning Light Grief Support Webring
http://www.erichad.com/mlring.htm

Parents of Murdered Children
http://www.pomc.com
e-mail: NatlPOMC@aol.com

Pen-Parents, Inc.
http://www.penparents.org
e-mail: PenParents@aol.com

Precious Children Remembered
http://www.accnorwalk.com/

Pregnancy Loss Newsgroup
http://web.co.nz/~katef/sspl/

S.A.N.D.
http://sandswa.org.au
http://www.sandsvic.org.au/

SHARE Pregnancy & Infant Loss Inc.
http://www.NationalSHAREOffice.com

SIDS Alliance
http://www.sidsalliance.org

SIDS Network
http://sidsnet@sids-network.org
http://sidsnet@sids-network.org/pil.htm (pregnancy loss)
http://www.azsids.org (Arizona SIDS Alliance)

Tom Golden’’s Crisis, Grief, and Healing
http://www.webhealing.com/

Zoom
http://www.premier.net/


MAILING ADDRESSES/TELEPHONE NUMBERS

A.G.A.S.T. (Alliance of Grandparents Against SIDS Tragedy)
2323 N. Central Avenue, Suite 1204
Phoenix, AZ 85004
888/774-7437

Bereavement Services
Gundersen Lutheran Medical Center
1910 South Avenue
Lacrosse, WI 54601
608/791-4747 or
800/362-9567 X 4747

Compassionate Friends
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522
630/990-0010
630/990-0246 (fax)

M.E.N.D. (Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death)
P.O. Box 1007
Coppell, TX 75019
888/659-MEND

M.I.D.S. (Miscarriage, Infant Death & Stillborn)
16 Crescent Drive
Parsippany, NJ 07054

Parents of Murdered Children
100 East Eight Street, B-41
Cincinnati, OH 45202
888/818-POMC

Precious Children Remembered
P.O. Box 534
Huron, OH 44839

Pregnancy & Infant Loss Center
1415 East Wayzata Blvd. #30
Wayzata, MN 55391
612/473-9372

SHARE Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Inc.
St. Joseph Health Center
300 First Capitol Drive St.
Charles, MO 63301-2893
800/821-6819


SIDS Alliance
1314 Bedford Avenue, Suite 210
Baltimore, MD 21208
800/221-SIDS

SIDS Network
9 Gonch Farm Road
Ledyard, CT 06339
Support Organization for Trisomy 18, 13, and Related Disorders
2982 Union Street
Rochester, NY 14624

UNITE, Inc. (Perinatal Grief Support)
7600 Central Avenue
Philadelphia, PA 191 11-2499